Why is
it we have to play games in relationships.
Why does my love life resemble jenga more than the notebook? I recently
got into the longest, lamest nothing fight in history with my guy. Instead of
being adults, we are at a stalemate. Because that’s how it works now a days.
Let’s see who is going to crack first. Who is going to send the first text or
ask to hang out or want to talk? Who is going to apologize? I say who goddamn
cares?
I don’t
want to “win” or be right. I don’t even know what winning in this situation
would be anymore. I just want to be able to eat pizza and watch Adventure Time
with the man I love. So what the crap?. I am too old to be playing games, most
of us are, but we still do it. We don’t want to reach out and seem needy or
clingy. We don’t want to be rejected or hurt. Well we are all a giant bunch of
vaginas and need to grow a pair. No one ever got anywhere by doing nothing.
Worst
case scenario, you get completely ignored. Perhaps the other person moved to
Africa and has mo wifi ( it could happen). May be the had a chemical accident
at work and cant see your text or hear your call and they don’t have a brail
phone yet. Or they clearly died. Which is sad, but you would have never known if you didn’t reach out and those new
black pumps needed a good funeral to go to.
What if
they do answer, but the argument continues? I say go ham. If this stupid fight
won’t die, them it’s time to hash it out. However, fight nice. No name calling,
no blame, no crazy bullshit. Just the facts, ma’am. My best advice, when
something your other half does is upsetting or hurtful, always use “I”
statements. “I feel upset when you call me a cunt.” Just a loose example, but
it takes away the attack and lets them be less defensive. And if none of that
works, punch them in the face and be done with that crazy dbag.
Or the
outcome that for some reason we never expect could happen. They could actually
want to make up and move on. It would be shocking I know, but try not to pee
yourself. In that case just let it go if you can, talk out anything you need
to, and make sure there is lots of hugging (or sex, sex is good.)
Unfortunately
for me, my situation may have been the final straw for something that was not quite
meant to make it even this far. Only time will tell, but I hope better luck
upon the rest of you. Always remember, you are worth more than you think. Never
let anyone else dictate that.
Jai Singh
